Saturday, March 10, 2007

Understanding Asexuality: From a Sexual to Other Sexuals


I know... It has been a really long time since I made a post... But *sigh*... College assignments and unreliable internet connection can't really be considered as favourable factors! :(. Anyway, I headed straight for AVEN after coming online after so many days and found this article... What's so unique about it is that it is a sexual person's point of view about asexuality and it has been written for other sexuals! Here's an excerpt:

A friend who rarely mentions sex has not had any in at least a decade. It has always seemed odd to me, but he is someone I really care for, and I accept him as he is. When I discovered the AVEN board, I put two and two together and got asexuality. I did not want to confront my friend over something he might not be comfortable talking about, but I did want to let him know that I was asexual-friendly. Unable to concoct a better plan, I sent a FYI e-mail to a dozen friends, letting them know that I was reading very interesting threads on the AVEN board. I even sent links to some of my favorites. My e-mail was not for the other eleven; it went to them so my friend would not think I was singling him out. He wrote back a few days later, saying he had looked over the board and found it fascinating. He also said he wished he had been born asexual, as that would have made his life easier. O.K., he is not asexual. Two days later I received e-mail from a different friend, one of the eleven. He said he had always suspected he was asexual...(more)

Tuesday, March 6, 2007

When Will It All be Accepted?


A couple weeks ago I was discussing gay rights with someone who doesn't support them, and he asked "If being gay is accepted, what will be next?" I gave him the obvious answer, that being bisexual, transgender, and asexual will be accepted (possibly in that order). While this probably didn't make him feel more supportive of gay rights, it has me wondering how long it will be before people don't have to fit perfectly into an orientation's stereotype.

Right now it seems like most sexuals (most everyone really) is expected to have a high sex drive directed towards the opposite sex, but of course not everyone, or even every heterosexual, does. Some bisexuals might have a preference for one gender, so to label them with the word "bisexual," which most people associate with being equally attracted to both genders, also doesn't make sense. Basically, not only are not all people the same, not all heterosexuals are the same, nor are all homosexuals, bisexuals, or asexuals. I'm wondering when people will begin to tolerate people not fitting perfectly into a pre-determined set of specific orientations.

Homosexuality, though already acknowledged, is really just now starting to be accepted. Eventually, once people decide you actually can be attracted to the opposite sex or to the same sex, they'll hopefully accept the possibility that someone is attracted to both, and then that you can be attracted to neither. Considering how long it's taken us to get to the level of tolerance we're at now, that will take a great deal of time. After that though, maybe people will loosen definitions and disregard stereotypes, and be truly tolerant.